when is the right time to send out your stationery?
so, when is the right time??
So you've been super organised and efficient and have booked everything up (yay! give yourself a pat on the back)! the dilemma is this.... sending your invites too early and you risk your guests mis-placing or forgetting about your special day....too late and risk guests not being able to arrange time off work if necessary, baby sitters and saving money.
The following is only advice but hopefully it will help you with some of these worries.
save the dates
Usually these are sent out 4-6 months before the wedding date. These are sent before your full set of invitations are sent out. These stationery items are so your guests can 'pencil you in' their diary and can start making arrangements for accommodation, babysitters etc if necessary.
when should the rsvp's be returned by?
Be sure to put an RSVP date on your invites.
You will see on some of my wedding collections I have designed a postcard style card so it makes it easier for your guest(s) to simply fill out and pop it in the post. You could even add a stamp on for them! You could of course add an email or mobile number, but sometimes putting good old fashioned pen to paper makes it feel a little more quirky and special when you get those replies on your doormat in the morning!
For all those guests who you can predict will be last minute... (yes we all know who you are) you could maybe send them a polite reminder text or email, stating you need a final numbers to confirm places and seats. It will take the stress out of wondering if they will turn up on the day or not and lets face it, that's what every bride-to-be dreams of.
full invitation sets
These should be sent out 3-4 months before your wedding. Invitations should contain everything that your guests need to know about your wedding day for example –
wedding gift wish list /poem (like the one featured in my collections)
the dress code ie maybe suggesting a 'no heels' note if your wedding is in a grassy location
a menu choice
a personal song choice
a link to your wedding website if you have one
RSVP return cards.
what if our wedding is.....
During the Summer or Christmas holidays.
In both cases you will need to send the save the date cards out 6-8 months in advance.
Guests may need to re-new passports for example or arrange childcare, time off work etc, so it’s important to give them plenty of time.
should we send an invite to someone we know can't attend?
[Resourced from the Bride Website]
As you’re choosing a wedding date and making your guest list, there’s a good chance you’ll find out that someone you’d really hoped would be there won’t be able to make it to your wedding. When it comes time to send out your invitations, should you add them to the list anyway, even though you know they can’t come?
Here’s what our experts have to say.
Deciding whether or not to invite a guest you already know can’t attend your wedding all depends on the context. If it’s a more distant relative or a family friend you aren’t particularly close to, tread with caution: Sending a wedding invitation if they’ve already said they won’t be able to make it can be seen as a ploy to try to get more gifts, so think this one through. Of course, that doesn’t mean other guests should be struck from the list, too!
If the guest in question is someone you’re close to and is an older relative or friend, like a grandmother, aunt, or your childhood neighbor, they may want to receive the wedding invitation as a keepsake. Consider writing them a note about how sorry you are to hear that they won’t be there to celebrate with you and slipping it in with their invite. That way they’ll know that you wanted to include them in the celebration as much as possible, as well as that you already know they can’t attend. Bonus: These guests are probably planning to send you a gift anyway, so sharing your invitation (and therefore your registry information!) means they’ll be able to pick out something they will know you’ll love.